hello there, how are you doing? are you having a good saturday? today i have a little story to tell you, a personal one. you know, i consider myself a very independent girl! i remember being very young and already making plans about my future home. i had always had this clear idea of moving our of my parents’ house after graduating from college, maybe i would have to wait two years, because i knew that finding a job wouldn’t be easy. but that ended up happening 3 years after i graduated and i chose to move our of my parents’ house and change city. i lived with a friend for almost one year and a half and then i moved out to this home, to live by myself. and so i stayed alone for less than two years, before mr twiggs came to live with me! i used to have a friend that was always worried about me not having a boyfriend (typical of other girl friends that are already married!), and i would always answer her that i rather enjoy my own company first and feel good about myself, than having company just for the fear of being alone. i love being alone… i love going out with my camera alone and wander for hours and hours. and i prefer doing this alone. i can’t cope with the fact that someone is waiting for me to take one more picture!
but now, one side note… mr twiggs is away on a snowboard roadtrip with his friends. he left yesterday and will be back next wednesday and let me tell you that i really don’t enjoy being alone without him in the house. we are this really independent couple, we are able to do our things alone, have our little pleasures and routines, but we also love each other’s company! we just don’t need to be doing things together all the time! but when he’s not home for some reason… i kind of not like it at all. i keep wishing for wednesday to be here to have him home again. and yes, i’m still fortunate to have mr kobe’s company. but the whole thing about eating alone and not being able to share things, even random things with him… not my favorite part of being alone!
my favorite part of being alone might be the thing about cleaning the house or being able to go out on my wandering walks, making sure all those i had in mind scheduled for some day in the future are being done now. and that’s what i did today! i will share next week for sure! and this is it for now! just some words on being alone! and how about you? do you like to be alone? do you enjoy your own company or do you need to have someone to walk with you and see things with you, just for the pleasure of sharing?
sushi lover says
:-) fez-me sorrir o teu post porque podia ter escrito algo semelhante. acho que essas saudades são mais que saudáveis e prova do vosso amor. boa! o equilíbrio é q é bom! adoro estar sozinha c os meus pensamentos mas adoro companhia.
twiggs says
ainda bem que te fiz sorrir e que não estou sozinha nesta ambivalência de gostos! é tão estranho como rapidamente uma pessoa se habitua a não viver sozinha e depois quando está sozinha, já não gosta como gostava antes! principalmente o ir deitar… essa é a parte do dia que menos gosto! mas pronto, são as saudades mesmo! é bom senti-las porque depois o regresso é melhor! :) um grande beijinho e obrigada por passares aqui!
Yvonne says
You could have been writing this about me as well! I really wish we could meet some day in person!
Hugs from Seoul to you and one of my favorite cities on earth!
Yvonne
twiggs says
oh sweet yvonne, thank you so much for writing such sweet words! i hope we can actually meet one day… maybe someday you can get a little bit closer to this sunny city and we can grab a cup of coffee while we delight ourselves with some pasteis de nata! deal? hugs!! :)
Sherri B. says
I’m very much like you! I completely relate to what you say – I hope your time alone passes quickly. Enjoy those walks! Your photos are beautiful.
twiggs says
hello sherri, welcome to this place of mine! and thank you so much for leaving such a nice comment on both my words and work! i think that by the response to this post, i’m most definitely not alone on these feelings, and that actually feels good!! have a great week!!
Ines says
I sure recognize myself in it! I feel too like that me and my mister are a bit independent but still when he’s not around, sometimes it feels weird (we’re not really living together, just to make clear ;-) )
twiggs says
oh but that doesn’t matter right? it’s like you need her around, or knowing that she’s around to feel good! we don’t always need some persons to be close to us, but we do need to know that they’re close! :) have a lovely sunday!
Sílvia says
Identifiquei-me com uma grande parte do que escreveste neste post. :) eu todos os dias tenho de ter um momento do dia em que esteja apenas cmg própria, e além disso gosto de tomar o meu pequeno-almoço sempre sozinha tirando uma ou outra situação específica, é um ritual do dia-a-dia que é muito importante para eu começar bem o meu dia. Falando de saudades, como eu te entendo, havia alturas em que stressava pq o tempo livre era tão pouco que muitas vezes tinha de fazer uma escolhe não dava sempre para ter o meu tempo, agora tenho demasiado tempo desde que o J foi para a Suiça.
beijinhos Cláudia!
twiggs says
obrigada pela simpatia constante minha querida! é verdade, também preciso de ter o meu espaço e é giro continuarmos os dois tão independentes e ainda assim encontramos sempre coisas que gostamos e queremos fazer a dois! só que nestes dias é sempre uma sensação estranha, gosto do silêncio e de ter algumas horas para mim, mas gosto de saber que o mr twiggs vai entrar por aquela porta a determinada hora. e agora tenho de esperar por quarta para que tudo volte ao normal! mas claro… tenho de esperar até quarta e tu terás de esperar muito mais, portanto não é muito justo queixar-me, não é? :) beijinhos grandes!
Maria-Thérèse says
Beautiful photos! (of twiggs, hehe!) I love being alone for the most part and I’m not in a relationship either. If I were, I would still want to live on my own. I don’t like feeling that I have to talk to someone or behave a certain way; I want to be able to listen to music and walk around or watch films at night without disturbing anyone. Since I’m an artist I also need to be able to sit and stare into thin air a lot while creating things in my mind and maybe that would be hard for someone else to understand.
twiggs says
hello maria-thérèse (such a beautiful name you have!)! i understand you, really! before meeting mr twiggs, i actually thought about the same, would i ever be able to share my space with another person? i was so used to being alone and have all this independence that i thought it would be a hard step for me some day in the future! but as they say, love happens when we’re not expecting and when it did, it did hit me hard and 3 months after dating each other, we moved in together (well, he moved in with me here!) and i never regretted for a single moment of these almost two years living together. it can be hard… and for some persons it will be hard. but if it’s for a good reason and it it feels the right thing to do, will be a good thing! have a great week!! and don’t think that you’ll be hard for someone to understand… we all have our own way of being and doing things! the right person for you will have those too! :)
MissLilly says
wow that’s totally me! I always wanted to live on my own. I moved away from my parents house when I was still 17 and I cried, it was hard at that time. But only 4 years later I went actually to live on my own in Benfica. I actually enjoy the time I have for myself and organize something with the friends if I need some socializing.
But that was until he came to live with me. If we are together, each of us can be doing is own stuff, but we know we are together and at the end of the day we will be there for each other, but every time we had to be away from each other it was a real pain. Like today, enjoying my time, but knowing he will be back at the end of the day.
Love the new photos. Take the time to walk in Lisbon and take some new photos, when you notice he will be back :)
twiggs says
sweet lilly, that’s exactly it! knowing that he’ll walk through that door every day is the great confidence we feel among our independence! and now it’s no different, except that he won’t be coming through that door until next wednesday! and it’s not that much either, but it just feels so empty and silent. thank goodness for mr kobe! :) yes, i’ll do that!!! wednesday will be just around the corner! hugs!
Traveling Mama says
For a brief moment my heart stopped when I thought you were going to tell us that Mr. Twiggs was gone for good. Whew! Away for a little trip is a much better alternative! When my guy is away I miss him and I am lonely, but I think the time away always makes us appreciate each other more. Your photos are just lovely, BTW! Gorgeous!!
twiggs says
oh i knew some of the readers would think that way! but yes, as you say my friend, such a better alternative! he could be away on the snowboard trip for a month, if that was the alternative… to leave for good! but you’re right. these days apart are actually good for us, because we have the time to miss each other and to appreciate what we have together! missing someone is not always a bad thing! thank you so much for your words on my work! :) hugs!
Sheila Sim says
I understand exactly what you’re staying, I feel the same about Mr Sim! And I love your photos :-)
twiggs says
hello sheila!!! i knew i wasn’t alone on feeling like this! and for what i know it doesn’t get better with time! :) but as i was saying to traveling mama, missing someone is not necessarily a bad thing! sometimes makes everything that comes next, really tasteful! :) have a great week!
Frau Mayer says
Dear Twiggs, I’m happy to report your beautiful photos have arrived safe and sound. However, I’m a bit shy about showing what I did with them :) Thanks so much for taking care of my ‘special’ request!
As for being alone, I consider it a sign of an interesting, creative person – being able to enjoy your own company. And sometimes little breaks during a relationship can be very refreshing – just imagine how lovely it’ll be when he returns next week!
Greetings,Alina
twiggs says
hello alina!!! thank you so much for letting me know that everything went well with your order! and i also believe in what you just said! it’s a good thing to be able to appreciate our own company! to go alone somewhere and enjoy it alone with your thoughts! but in the end of the day i love some company, specially for meals! suddenly eating alone is such a boring thing to do! i used to set the table even just for myself and now i just want to get it over with! specially because there’s no tv now at home, so i would be looking at nothing, so that bores me even more! :):) hugs from a very warm lisbon!
Frau Mayer says
Dear Twiggs, you still have Mr. Kobe to eat with. At least till Wednesday! I have to admit that I spend almost every meal with my laptop as my partner’s and my timetables seldom match. It’s a bad habit for sure.
I’ll post some decent photos of the ‘special request’ soon and let you know.
Greetings back,
Alina
twiggs says
oh you are so right, i still have mr kobe! and i actually do have him with his head almost on the table, smelling my meal with a look on his face like if he was saying to me “oh that smells good, can i taste it? please???!” :) can’t wait to see what you’ve done with the calendar!!! have a great week my dear!
MissLilly says
I’m glad you have Mr. Kobe by your side. We miss our Txu in than sense, because he was there supporting the one staying at home, requesting for attention and giving his unconditional love to us, we felt less lonely. And see, Wednesday is getting so close!!!
Enjoy your monday :)
twiggs says
yes, pets do keep us company! i have him all day with me, would be much worse if i hadn’t! do you what i read today? that the family that adopted his sister, returned her last week… apparently someone had some allergies to her fur. and it kept me thinking about the pain about returning a pet we’ve owned for a year! the pain for the little dog… they are so loving and that dog must be so sad right now… but well, guess what, me and mr kobe will have mr twiggs again with us tomorrow! have a great day!
Iro [Ivy style33] says
Dear Claudia,
I also understand your feelings quite well and can relate to them, much like some of the friends who have wirtten here. Enjoying your own company and doing things alone that please you is such a wondeful approach to life! But then again, like everything, it has its difficult sides. Days must have flown by now even when not in the easiest way always… till Wednesday enjoy as much as possible Kobe’s & your own company & may you happily welcome Mr Twiggs!
Lovely pictures of blossoms! Almond and cherry trees are so amazingly beautiful. Great captures!
Take care :*) xx
twiggs says
thank you so much my lovely friend! yes, you are so right! it can be a wonderful approach, but has its harder side of the story! sometimes we just want to share something with someone… and i believe that though i’m very independent, i’m also someone that loves to be with someone, have someone’s company… having a partner in life. and mr twiggs is definitely my partner in life. and wednesday is just around the corner! thank you for the nicest words on my photos! have a wonderful evening!