{intro}
Almost a year ago, I registered on Flickr… posted some pictures of mine, those I thought had enough quality to share with the world. I spent some time exploring, discovered interesting pictures, made a few comments, and got connected with a few interesting Flickrers. Then I discovered that posting pictures of Interior Styling was quite frequent and that some people had and amazing taste, and gladly shared their homes with the rest of the world. So I did the same. And got more connected, met more interesting people… and almost one year later, I may say that I have some friends. One of these friends has a blog, a wonderful blog, which I follow with pleasure due to her interesting and eloquent thoughts. And often I feel connected with these thoughts. Today was one of those days.
“As much as extrospection, in common words observing ( to put it in a kind manner ) what others do, is so often noticed and exercised, there seems to be a rather big absence of introspection, meaning , observing ourselves, personalities and behavior.
But to achieve that, we must be willing to see all parts of ourselves, parts that are often unpleasant, small, wrong, terrifying sometimes, along with all the greatness that each of us carries. “
We often think about others, how they act with us, what they think of us, and what we think of them. It’s a natural thing. We cannot in any way go against this. It’s in our nature. We observe. We analyze. We judge. We can cope with this in a positive way or, on the other hand, we can cope with it in a more negative way… by being solely alert to other’s actions and words, in order to criticize and point out the negative and bad things. By this we’ll be only surrounded by negativism… by dark days… clouds and storms, unable to see the light, unable to feel free, unable to find our own way, unable to feel the happiness and our path.
This leads us to introspection (as my friend also wrote about). As I spent a few years all alone, without finding true love, I learned to be all by myself. I learned to do things alone, to handle grocery, bills, domestic problems, learned to cook (not brilliantly, but I love it), and to spend time alone… wondering around Lisbon, even travelling alone (I’m a master in taking pictures of me on monuments/interesting places, or to find someone trustworthy to ask to take a picture of me)… and one friend of mine, always worried about my heart, everytime I told her I had been somewhere, she would ask “With who?” and I would answer “With no one… just me!” and after seeing her sad face, I would tell her “My dear friend, I will only be able to be with someone for real, and allowing that perosn to become a part of my life, if I know myself, and know how to be alone. Then I will be prepared to be with someone.”
And I guess this is a major step in our lives. And know you’re wondering “What step?”… to be able to discover the answer to this question.
{who am i?}
Alert, you won’t find it in a week or two, or even five years. This will be a full-time job… during your entire life. But you need to be honest with yourself and try. Or you’re going to become just someone… without a soul (this is kind of harsh… but these are the words).
And discovering yourself mean {introspection}.
Introspection means “observing ourselves, personalities and behavior.“, she said.
Introspection means looking inside, discovering the good, but also the dark… accept those lines, eventhough you should try to lighten those lines. But accept that you’re not perfect, and you have flaws… and you must cope with those flaws, make them better if you can, if not, let others know you know yourself, and you know your flaws. Help them cope with you as well, as we are all different and we must accept others as well as ourselves.
{how often do we look inside… ourselves?}
“Introspection, as the term is used in contemporary philosophy of mind, is a means of learning about one’s own currently ongoing, or perhaps very recently past, mental states or processes.”
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